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Stretching for Flexibility: The Top 8 Mistakes Holding You Back

If you're here, it means you have been trying to get flexible without seeing enough results. Whether you are a dancer, yogi, martial artist, gymnast, cheerleader, athlete, or just an ordinary person trying to get stretchy - these tips based on kinesiology and effective stretching techniques will be essential to improve your flexibility.

How can you become more flexible?
How can you become more flexible?

Firstly let's start by establishing that ANYONE can become flexible, as long as you train safely and use correct techniques. It's not just genetics and young age that makes you flexible, it's also your lifestyle, training habits, and your training methods. As a child and teenager, I was never flexible. I was the one struggling at the back of dance and gymnastics classes. I only became flexible as an adult, after I had studied, experimented, and combined several different techniques from gymnastics, ballet, barre, pilates, callisthenics, yoga, martial arts, movement science, sports performance, and cheerleading.

When I combined everything I learned, I started to see some patterns and common errors that are not always outlined by teachers and instructors in your average training session. Flexibility can be a little finicky; it's probably one of the most complex physical abilities to master because it involves many different physiological systems.

Stretching & Flexibility Course
Stretching & Flexibility Course

HERE ARE THE 8 MOST COMMON MISTAKES THAT HURT YOUR FLEXIBILITY TRAINING, why they are holding you back, and how you can fix them to make your stretching more effective.

1. You're Scrunching Instead of Stretching

You think you're stretching nice and long, but actually, you're "scrunching". When you're stretching, you're curling up like a snail instead of lengthening your muscles.

INSTEAD: Lengthen your stretch - it doesn't matter how far you can go! What matters is the angle of your stretch and if you're feeling it in the muscles you are trying to stretch.

Flexibility mistake n.1 - SCRUNCHING!
Flexibility mistake n.1 - SCRUNCHING!

2. You're Collapsing Instead of Lifting

When you're holding a stretch skill, you're collapsing to the ground instead of lifting. Your muscles are relaxing and falling to the ground instead of extending upwards and away from the ground.

INSTEAD: Lift your body up and make yourself long and strong! Think of growing as tall and long as possible; you will be more stable when holding your stretch.

Follow this tutorial to learn to stretch LONG & STRONG!

3. You're All Skew

Great, you look like a boomerang! Yes, it's frustrating that your stretching is not yet on point - but stretching at wonky angles is just slowing down your progress. Don't focus on how impressive your stretch looks: focus on alignment to develop flexibility in the right muscles.

INSTEAD: Be patient, stretch straight. It looks like you're not as flexible but trust me when I say: you're ten steps ahead of a wonky stretcher!

4. You're Holding Your Breath

Shortness of breath during stretching does two things: A) You're not bringing enough oxygen to your muscles, and B) It's triggering your nervous system into thinking your body is under stress, making it more difficult to deepen your stretch and ultimately become more flexible.

INSTEAD: Breathe slowly and deeply to relax your body, inhaling when you rest and exhaling as you ease more into the full range of your stretch.

Passive vs Active Stretching
Passive vs Active Stretching

5. You're Only Stretching Passively

Passive stretching helps your muscles & connective tissues (including your fascia & tendons) to lengthen by applying tension using a belt, a wall, gravity, or a partner to help stay in position while you're stretching. Active stretching, however, puts your new flexibility to use and allows you to keep it!

INSTEAD: Use both passive AND active stretching. In a passive stretch, the muscles should RELAX and LENGTHEN. In active stretching, you need to hold the position on its own, adding movement and CONTRACTING to hold the lengthened muscles in place.

Triangle Pose Stretch
Triangle Pose Stretch

6. You're Only Practising Your Skills

You're so focused on "showcasing" your stretchy skills that you forget to develop your overall flexibility. Many poses or skills you find in gymnastics, martial arts, dance, or yoga are not a tool to build your flexibility. They are a DEMONSTRATION of the flexibility you currently have.

INSTEAD: To get flexible, you need to train your body before you can achieve the skill. Your entire body needs to be mobilised and stretched before you work on applying flexibility to a skill or pose; especially the ones that feel the most difficult!

7. You Stress When You Stretch

The way you stretch is painful, so your body tenses up until your tissues are as solid as a rock. No wonder you're not progressing! For your stretching to be effective, you need to learn to relax your body. Your tissues should work with the stretch, not against it!

INSTEAD: Stretch to music that you love, follow a trainer that you can trust, and go at your own pace. Learn to love the sensation of stretching, knowing that you are being safe and stretching effectively!

How to stretch for flexibility

8. You're Not Stretching Often Enough

You've been stretching every week for the last 15 years and getting nowhere. Yeah, that's not how flexibility works. First, you need a development phase, and then you can keep it up with weekly stretching. During this development phase, you can learn how to hold stretches long enough for the stretch to be effective, and the correct techniques to avoid injury.

Remember that flexibility requires consistent, targeted and regular training to see improvement. A 30-day tailored "stretch bootcamp" will give you more results than fifteen years of stretching weekly. Once you've completed your development phase, you can move on to a more sustainable once or twice-weekly maintenance phase. But first, you need to overcome your physical barriers.

Remember that you're not only changing the elasticity of your body, but you're also convincing your muscles and joints that it's ok to go a little further!


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Jessica Z. Christensen - Writer & Academy Director

Jessica is an education specialist in the field of holistic training for sports and fitness, with over 12 years in the industry working as a trainer and educator. Founder of BBS Training Academy™, she is a NASM CPT with the National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM) and is passionate about functional anatomy, human evolution and optimised performance. She brings passion and care to all her students and never teaches the same class twice. You can catch her on Youtube for monthly free live workouts!

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